It’s a g*d-d*mn victorious amazing liberating f*kn fantastic day.
Trump was not re-elected.
And to celebrate, I’m cleaning my house.
Cause it’s a day of cleansing — we are cleaning out the White House of the hyperbolic leadership of the last four years, so I’d like to reflect that sentiment in my home as well.
p.s. Sending my gratitude out into the world for all the amazing people who created memes and Tik-Toks filled with funny, and inspired commentary on this past week. It legit got me through Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday.
p.p.s. Watched this documentary today and holy mf cannoli …
I’m not one to share or talk about politics so publicly. The conversations that involve political themes require more patience and nuance than is ever allotted on the internet. It demands more empathy, compassion, understanding, and willingness to withhold harsh judgment on those that are not aligned with your belief system. I choose to not engage. However, today, in the light of all the pain, heartache, death, and despair that 2020 has endured – I participate in this political conversation and celebrate.
My mother is one of the most intelligent and resilient women I know, and for this Mother’s Day, I’m going to stop being ashamed that I live with her.
Yes, I’m a thirty-three-year-old married woman with an established career who lives with their mother. For the past 15 years, I’ve carried a growing shame about living with her, and it wasn’t until I was in quarantine with my Mom did I unpack that baggage.
Shame is interesting, it’s non-discriminate, and regardless of status, it finds a way to infect our souls. A seed that is planted in our psyche and grows over time, influencing how we move through the world, protecting the little secrets we have around our shame. Movies, television shows, media, in general, has painted the picture of a very pathetic adult who lives with their parent. A person who is unmotivated, non-directional, a slacker, lazy, ungrateful, entitled, a stunted-adult who is irresponsible and has a bad case of Peter Pan syndrome. It’s a characterization that I don’t identify with and does not accurately depict my husband at all. I am absolutely terrified of being boxed in by that stereotype. If the story were flipped and my mother happened to be living with me in my house, I’d be painted with a sweet altruistic multi-generational home narrative, but that isn’t my story. I would be lying if I tried to spin that story too. Instead, I’m tangled up in my shame because except for a small three-month stint in Venice when I was 20 and living with a few co-workers, I’ve never lived on my own.
“A Bouquet of Happiness” – Inside Jonathan Adler and Simon Doonan’s Whimsical Home
I’m a firm believer in manifestation. I have been ever since I was a kid. My first manifestation was at the age of 11 or 10 and I called in our family dog Blondie. I have more manifestation stories, but maybe I’ll reserve that for its own post.
Last year I began listening to manifestation coach Lacey Phillips’ podcast and gained insights into her manifestation system, which is also very much a “how-to heal from your emotional trauma, grow, and develop new breakthroughs” system. I wholeheartedly believe in her system, as the manifestation process I’ve been fostering since I was a child is very similar to hers. However, she has some tips, tricks, and workshops that never dawned on me and I believe the universe did send her the full download. A download that allows her to communicate what I’ve known instinctually, unveiling a vocabulary and structure of how to truly manifest the life you desire.
One of those vocab words is Expanders™. In her words, “Expanders™ are some of the most valuable energy you will ever have around you. They are literally who expand your belief system when it comes to Manifestation. And learning how to detect them and integrate them is a potent part of living an existence of our being in full expansion and possibility of receiving what we are calling in.”
Put simply, Expanders™ show you the possibilities of what it is that you can have in your life. If you want to be a mother and a CEO, then you could find Expanders by googling, “women CEOs who have children,” I did it and the article is here. Expanders™ can be anyone or anything, they just expand your mind and energy.
In regards to home life and aesthetics, I love watching The Cut’s Interior Lives series. Not every home is MY aesthetic or style, but the way in which people talk about their homes and how the home reflects their distinct style is how I want to feel about where I live. It is an Expander for me and the way I want to present my life and move through my space. The art, culture, and nuances of the creative soul. It helps me to increase my magnetism (another of the vocab words) in regards to calling in the home-life I want to manifest.
I’ve been debating signing up for Lacey Phillips program for months now, and I feel myself inching closer and closer to that investment. If and when I make the leap, I’ll share the process. In the meantime, I sort of love the idea of sharing what I’m already doing and what I’m using as Expanders in my life.™
Are you a fan of Lacey Phillips? Do you believe in manifestation?
One of my favorite podcasts, That’s So Retrograde, has a segment called roses and thorns where they share the best and worst parts of their life at the moment. I love this segment because it ranges from the general best life moment highlights too favorite product discoveries. Roses & Thorns is very broad-reaching in its ability to be an open category for favorites and unfavorites of the mental, physical, and spiritual variety.
I’ve decided to adopt the practice on this here blog to spotlight the roses, be transparent about the thorny parts of life, and most of all – roll out my music playlists ( 🤞 on a monthly basis)
One Thing Leads To an Other – Home Décor Glow Up Gallery Wall, Bedside Table, and Plant Display
I wasn’t planning on giving our bedroom and home office a makeover this past weekend, but one thing led to another, and I believe I have successfully executed a little Home Décor Glow Up. The aesthetically pleasing self-care I needed this month. Here are five helpful tips that finally helped me get shit done around the house.
1) Have your home get in such disarray it causes a negative impact on your mental health
2) Visualize the perfect movie montage of joyful cleaning to get in the mood for your next big project
3) Address what isn’t working, and find a solution aka The Power of a Pivot
4) Become incredibly irritated by another thing that is 100% out of your control and be pushed to regain a sense of control through a little retail therapy
5) Be a micro-hoarder in the name of sustainability and find ways to repurpose items.
Read the full post and view Before & After pictures after the jump.
Over this past year, I collected my trash in a large bag in my closet. The following is the results of said collection, with the exclusion of a few products, because I was getting tired of filming.
I am a loyalist when it comes to my favorite products, it is hard to get me to deviate from what I know works for me. So, I don’t think I will ever do an empties video again, because of this – I made my ultimate empties video.
Not shown is the amount of toothpaste my husband and I went through in 2018. We brushed our teeth. Trust me when I say a lot of Sensodyne toothpaste was used. not sponsored, but open to it
🧡 Below is a list of Amazon affiliate links to my Ride or Die Products 🧡
It’s Friday the coolest day of the week, so it’s time for some cool stuff. Here is a collection of items from the internet that peaked my interest, tickeled my fancy, or made me smile – I hope it does the same for you too.
I want to explore Katharina Grosse’s blanket fort installation. If only I could zip down to Sydney on my imaginary private jet. Also, the artist wouldn’t call “The Horse Trotted Another Couple Of Metres, Then It Stopped” (the name of the piece) a blanket fort, but we all clearly know what this magical, colorful, art installation really is….
View a a full write up on the pieces & images on Juxtapoz
My friend Darcy O’Day made the cutest animations using the very candy-colored installation by Pip & Pop as the land where adorable monsters cannibalize each other. The install is showing at Corey Helford Gallery, and I must see it before it goes away February 17th.
I constantly see trailers for movies that I want to see, that I end up never seeing because I forget what the movie was. So maybe documenting them on Cool Stuff Friday will remind me to watch them later.
Lastly, how amazing is this friendship. I would say friendship goals, but I already have friends like this – we’re just all a little less famous.
Earlier today Dan and I celebrated with a delicious Indian buffet. We usually go to Umami Burger on Valentine’s day but decided earlier this month we’d keep today low key. Dan and I both have February birthdays, and Valentine’s is just right smack dab in the middle, so we figured it doesn’t hurt to be a little frugal. We do however have cards to exchange later tonight. We’re big card people and love giving each other love letters. Our collection of love notes is pretty extensive for having been together for only four years and inspired me to create a fun video all about our love letters. It’s a sweet reminder you don’t have to wait for Valentine’s Day to give your loved one a letter, nor do you have to spend a lot because a letter has lifetime value.
In the video, you will see that my first Valentine’s Day card from Dan has two dates on it. The February 7th date is because Dan had given me my Valentine’s Day card a week early having forgotten that Valentine’s Day is February 14th. Since he works in retail, a customer had come in and purchased something remarking it was for Valentine’s Day. The customer’s comment put Dan in a panic. That night when I went to see him, Dan apologized for not getting me anything for Valentine’s Day but handed me the card. I started cracking up and told him not to worry because he had 7 more days to figure it out. I didn’t open the card until the 14th, but I’m so happy I wrote the 7th on the envelope because it reminded me of this little story.
2015 VALENTINE’S VLOG
Like I said, our normal Valentine’s Day tradition is going to Umami Burger, but sadly we just couldn’t make it happen this year. Here is a vlog of our 2015 Valentine’s Day adventure in DTLA with Loulou who we had adopted two days prior. She look’s so little in this video!
Remember Valentine’s Day is a holiday created my a card company…and I’ve totally bought into it.